Rush Concert

I don't even know where to begin...what an amazing night for Jake. He finally got to see his favorite band, live in concert, just a few weeks and two years short of when was supposed to go the first time. Not sure if it made it any more special for him to be there now, but it sure did for me.

I was looking back over the previous few months of blogs and realized I hadn't updated you on a couple of things regarding the concert. You may remember that due to an outpouring of letters from friends and family, the band sent Jake a whole bunch of cool stuff while he was in the hospital. They also mentioned we'd be guests of the band next time they came through town. We were hopeful but didn't expect them to remember since it was two years later and they do have a few things going on. :-)  The band's management team came through with tickets for all four of us and an invitation to a meet and greet before the concert. We had no idea where our tickets would be and didn't find out until we picked them up at will call last night. To say we were stunned when we opened the envelope to see tickets 12 rows back from the stage would be a MAJOR understatement. We never expected such good seats and couldn't believe it.

About an hour before the concert, we got to meet two of the band members and get our picture taken (Neil Peart the drummer wasn't there). I was so nervous and excited for Jake, it felt like we waited in line forever, which in reality was only about 20 minutes. It was very quick but pretty cool knowing we were standing there getting our picture taken with some of the band. As we were walking away, Alex Lifeson (on the left) gave each of the boys a guitar pick which was pretty awesome. Luke kept saying "I can't believe I have a guitar pick handed to me by Alex Lifeson!"

From there we headed to our seats to wait for the show to begin. As soon as the lights went down and the first few bars of music started to play, Jake was beaming. I don't think he could have smiled any bigger. I tried to get a picture, but it turned out blurry. Within minutes, he had his phone up like everyone else taking video and pictures. We had two very tall people in front of us and the boys were having a hard time seeing. The guys behind us suggested we let them stand on the seats which was very nice considering the boys blocked much of their view. Luke stood up there for one song but then let Jake and it was hard to get him down. :-) I was amazed at Jake's stamina during the show, which was about three hours with a short intermission. He stood the majority of the time, singing along to just about every song and air drumming away. It was so cool to see, Todd was definitely enjoying himself as well. While admittedly, I am a not nearly as big of fan, I am so glad I was able to be there to experience it with Todd, Jake and Luke. I have huge respect for the talent and musicianship the band has. They put on a really impressive show.

It was a definitely a night we will all remember for a very long time. I'm so glad this was Jake's first concert experience too. We feel very blessed to have been given the opportunity to experience it like we did. Here is a little video clip of all the boys enjoying the show and of course part of Neil Peart's drum solo. Jake would never forgive me if I didn't includ that. :-)  http://youtu.be/8SFhGYAJmgA 

P.S. Those pink things in the boys are are earplugs courtesy of mom. :-)

A Busy June...

It's been a busy couple of weeks at the Morgan household. Jake just finished his three week OT/PT intensive, he's had five therapy appointments a week in addition to aquatic therapy, stretch therapy, acupuncture and nuerofeedback (the last three being part of his year round schedule). It's always amazing to me to see how much progress he makes during these mini intensive sessions. This one was focused on strength training in his legs, reducing the tightness in his left arm and better grip release. They push him really hard too...fast walking on the treadmill, single leg presses, balancing on his left and going up/down the stairs. I honestly don't know how he continues to have such a good attitude and work so hard at all of his appointments, especially at 8:00 in the morning, but he does.

We did manage to fit in some fun stuff too. Week before last, he and Luke attended a day camp through Adaptive Adventures. They got to water ski, paddle board, kayak and bike. It was all adapted so Jake was able to participate in everything. I couldn't quite imagine how he would be able to water ski, they had a little chair attached to a mono ski with two outriggers off to the side for balance. He got the full experience of skiing behind a boat but in a completely safe way. I also love that they include the siblings, Luke didn't get to water ski but he did get a "really awesome wild tube ride" behind the boat. They were completely wiped when they got home but they both couldn't stop talking and telling me all about it. They ask that a parent attend with kids under 14, so Todd went and got to experience all the excitement first hand (and take pictures for me.)

After that long day at camp in 90+ degree weather, the next morning Jake asked to go bike riding again at Wash Park. We hadn't planned on going since we figured he'd be too tired, but off we went. We all biked together this time and he made it about 3 1/2 miles before his legs got too tired.

This past Saturday we went to Cave of the Winds in Colorado Springs. My parents had taken Luke
during one of their outings while Jake as in the hospital. It's something Jake has wanted to do since last summer. It's a 45 minute guided tour, about a half mile with 200 steps and a lot of narrow winding paths on sometimes slippery ground. It's a really cool tour and he did awesome. If you haven't been (and aren't claustrophobic) I'd highly recommend it.

We finished our day in the Springs by visiting a bike shop that specializes in recumbent bikes like the ones Jake's been riding at Wash Park. Todd and I have been talking about getting one for Jake and needed to get more education on some of the different features and what would be best suited for him. It something he seems to be enjoying, is great "fun" therapy, and would allow us to start taking bike rides again as a family. The bikes are quite an investment, so we want to get something that will last and grow with him. The store was really helpful and we feel a lot better equipped to make a decision. We all got to take a spin around the parking lot, they are really fun to ride.

Hard to believe June is almost gone, hoping July is a little less hectic!

Bike Ride at Wash Park

We had a great start to our weekend on Saturday morning at Wash Park, so much so I was on the verge of happy tears. This was the first free Saturday morning we've had in months and it was so nice to spend it in a beautiful park as a family.

For the past 9-10 months, stretch therapy and acupuncture have occupied most of our Saturday mornings because there just wasn't time to schedule them during the week. With summer here, we decided to move them to a weekday so we could do some other things on the weekends...that led us to Wash Park which is a really popular park near downtown Denver. We met up with Adaptive Adventures and the Children's Hospital Sports Program for a bike ride. We did one with them last summer and it went pretty well all things considered. I mentioned to Jake they were offering the rides again this summer and he said he'd like to try it again. 

We could not believe how much better he did this time. He had no issues holding on to the handle with his left hand and was even able to brake a little. It took a little work to get into a peddling rhythm, but once he got it, he just took off. As an added bonus, it was great therapy for his left leg. The really cool thing was they let Luke use one of their bikes too so they were able to ride together. Todd had also brought his bike and I figured he and Luke could go ride and I would walk and help Jake like I did last time. Things

didn't quite happen that way, Jake didn't need my help. The three of them were all off riding and I couldn't keep up on foot, which was actually really cool. I got to follow behind them watching them ride together and it literally filled my heart with joy. It was a gorgeous morning, the park setting was amazing and they were just two brothers cruising along....it all made me so happy. There were of course times when Luke turned into a speed demon, but then he'd stop, wait, and ride with Jake for awhile. Todd told me later (since I was out of earshot most of the time) that Luke would give Jake encouragement to get up a little bit of an incline or go a little faster, and Jake responded. They rode about 2 1/2 miles around the park and Jake was wiped out by the time they were done. He did tell me as soon as we got back to the car that he wanted to come again. Here is a really short video clip I was able to get after one of their stops http://youtu.be/AC5RcXsGL-I. 

Can't wait until next time when we can all ride together!

Two Years...

Today is two years since Jake had an aneurysm burst in his brain leading him and our family down a very unplanned path. Looking back it's really hard to believe it's already been two years, this past year has gone by especially fast. The doctors initially told Jake it would take a year to heal. I don't know what they determined "healed" to be, but I am really thankful he didn't stop his recovery at the one year mark since he's made some huge strides this past year.

On this second anniversary, I wasn't nearly as emotional as I was last year. I didn't find myself thinking about the events of that evening on May 31, 2013 as certain times passed on the clock. I was watching him play outside this afternoon and am pretty amazed at how far he's come. The kids had a lemonade stand and were up and down the street several times getting supplies. There is no way he could have done that a year ago. Today, I am going to focus on and celebrate all the progress Jake has made in this past year instead of dwelling on the things that are still a struggle.

Jake's transition to middle school went better than I could have ever hoped for. Yes, there were a few bumps along the way, but as he's just a few days from finishing 6th grade I'd have to count this year as a success. His independence grew as well as his self advocacy.

His walking has continued to improve and he is actually starting to run a little for short distances. There was only one time the entire year that he needed his wheelchair at school and that is because he got sick.

His stamina and endurance have really improved. We were so concerned about him getting around the middle school because it was so big and he did get tired earlier in the year. Now, it's really not a big deal. A year ago, we used his wheelchair consistently when going places like Costco or Target and now he doesn't need it. He can also be outside for several hours at a time hanging out with friends without getting overly tired. We also avoided doing certain activities because we were worried it would be too tiring, not so much anymore.

We're beginning to step back, not hover and watch over him quite as much. So much of his life has been under a microscope since this all happened and at times it was hard to just let him be. We were at a friends BBQ recently and he was out of our sight for huge chunks of time. It felt a little odd and good all at the same time to not go check and see how he was doing, but he didn't need us to. He was just hanging with the other kids. So many things he's going through now are normal for a 12 year old boy and have nothing to do with his aneurysm/stroke. Hearing some of those things was a big eye opener for us at his IEP meeting about a month ago.

Jake and Luke's relationship is continuing to evolve and change. I've caught a few moments of Jake stepping back into the big brother role which always warms my heart.

Jake is getting a little less fearful and more willing to try things. He and our daredevil Luke are still miles apart, but it's good to see him stepping out of his comfort zone.

Jake has grown this year in so many ways, there are countless little things that I didn't mention. Some of them are recovery related and some are just growing up, but both are good to see. We will continue help him in every way we can with therapies, support and space when he needs it to figure things out on his own. We are so thankful and feel very blessed that he has come as far as he has and can't wait to see what the next year brings. Thank you to all of you who continue to follow Jake's progress offering your love, prayers and support.

Music Glove

Jake started some new more engaging therapy a few weeks ago that we are hoping helps improve his fine motor skills on his left hand. Over the past several months, we've seen him try to use his left hand more and more doing things like opening the car door or holding his water bottle with his left hand and opening it with his right. He does pretty well grasping things but still really struggles with the release/opening of his hand. We've also noticed his hand control really depends on the position his wrist is in, he gets fatigued keeping his arm and hand straight and his wrist falls causing his hand to go down. This is a big issue when he drums so he has a small wrist splint he uses which seems to help.

Several months ago I saw on Facebook of all things, an add for a Music Glove (I still find it a bit creepy that facebook knows what to advertise to me based on what I search for on the internet). It's a rehab glove that isolates work on the pinch and release for the thumb and each of the fingers all done to music. As much as Jake likes music, we thought it might be a good thing to try. To get the fine motor skills back takes tons and tons of repetition and this seemed like a more engaging way to do it. I shared it with his OT and she did some research and thought it looked interesting, but we weren't sure he had enough isolated finger movement at the time to use the glove effectively. I brought it up to her again about a month ago and we decided it would be worth a shot. We talked to Jake to make sure it was something he was willing to take initiative to do 5 days a week working up to 20-30 minutes each session. He thought about it for a couple of days and came to us and said he wanted to try it.

It's pretty cool, he gets to pick which pinching grip he works on and if he wants to work 1, 3 or 5 grips/pinches per song. As the song plays, a little dot shows up on the screen and when it gets to the of buttons at the bottom showing the grip, Jake has to pinch. In the video, Jake is working on his middle finger and thumb, you can see the green dot coming down the middle of the screen. The sensors on the glove tell him if he's early, late or gets it exactly right. We got it two weeks ago and I took a video of his pinching without the glove and the first time he used it  https://youtu.be/PKZqNhlzC7I. The thing I've found interesting while watching him is how much he moves around when trying to get to pinch, it's like he needs the rest of his body to support what he's trying to do rather than isolating and moving only his fingers. He also holds his left wrist with his right hand for added support. First time he tried it he got 32/58 which is pretty darn good, the manual said it's normal to only get 5 or 10 on the first attempt.

We've been really proud of his dedication so far to "practicing." He needs a little help getting the little sensors on, but he comes to us and says he wants to practice instead of us reminding him. We're anxious to see how he progresses over the next several months, I'll be sure to keep you posted. :-)

Certificate of Excellence

I'm adding a disclaimer right up front that I'm going into proud mom mode and am going to brag on my kid. :-)

Back in March right before spring break, Jake came home from school and told me how that day in band his teacher had written a bunch of character traits on the board....team player, dedication, commitment, consistency, hard working, most improved and others. He asked the 40+ kids in the class to vote for which student they felt exemplified those traits. Sounded kind of cool, but I quickly forgot about it. About a week after he got back from break, it was announced to the band class that Jake had received the most votes and got "the award". He wasn't really sure what the award was, but was pretty excited.

We then received an invitation a few weeks ago to an awards night at Jake's school and figured it must have something to do with this award in band. Tonight all the pieces finally came together. One student per grade level was recognized for achieving excellence in each of the following: math, social studies, language arts, science, all the electives, sports or for earning a 4.0 GPA. Jake had been voted by his peers as the 6th grade recipient for band. Pretty cool honor. One, because drumming is so important to
him and two, he was voted as the most deserving of this award by his peers, not by teachers who as adults "get" what he's had to overcome. He was chosen not because he's the best drummer or the most popular kid in the class, but because of his attitude and hard work. Kids, many that didn't know him before this year and probably don't know his history, see him coming to class everyday putting in 110% effort. They see him not give up or quit when he got last chair for the percussion line. (The kids tryout for chair positions and he came in 4th out of 4 kids, it was pretty hard on him.) Receiving any award would have been wonderful, but to see him honored for something that means so much to him was pretty awesome. Can't wait to see what lies ahead for him.

Stay Tuned

I will be posting Monday night instead of my normal Sunday night because I want to share about a big honor for Jake that is happening tomorrow.

Stay tuned...